Why - Page 10

olga · 02-19-2013, 03:19 AM

Is there one in the group you travel to work with who you feel is perhaps actually quite a caring person? If so, would it be possible for you to have a chat with them one to one without the others around and tell that one person how you feel? I do feel you need to talk to someone about this, to try and resolve the situation. It is not fair that they carry on as they do. If they knew how upsetting it was and if they knew they were accused by some on here of bullying behaviour perhaps they would not do it if they realised how upsetting it was.
Thinking of you.

Char · 02-19-2013, 03:40 AM

Thanks. If I say anything it just makes them worse. I just try so hard not to mention Daisy but you know what it's like u end up saying something.
Work just txt to ask for password for computer opps it's Daisy. So something might get said when I'm back.

HollyHamster · 02-19-2013, 03:54 AM

Sister, you need some self confidence. I'd say bugger off to those who say those kinds of things and hold your head high and proud. You're amazing just the way you are!! Wait, isn't that a song or something?

Speaking of inspirational songs, I love this one by Selena Gomez, its very good for when you're feeling down.

Selena Gomez & The Scene - Who Says - YouTube

Its not exactly about your situation, but its close enough in my book.

Char · 02-19-2013, 04:06 AM

Yeah I do need some confidence. I have never had much confidence.
Great song by the way

strawberrysmom · 02-19-2013, 05:56 AM

This IS bullying. Maybe you could tell them so. That what they are doing has become bullying and you would appreciate it if they would cut it out!!! That is a serious thing. And it doesn't matter how old you are 9 to 90.

Kissa · 02-19-2013, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Char

Not well today so I'm at home. No horrible comments today, as I'm at home. Just me and daisy at home.

Get well soon! And your work colleagues really suck

There's an option to hide people on facebook rather than out-and-out deleting them, if you don't want to deal with them knowing you've de-friended them (I've done this to a few people). You can also add them to a group and block that group from seeing certain things, like pics of Daisy.

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Originally Posted by HollyHamster

Wow. Having babies at 19 years old?

I am 29 years old and still not ready for kids. I probably won't ever be. Not really the maternal type.

The bf tells me my maternal instincts are wired wrong

Show me a baby animal and I am all over it, but a baby primate -- human, monkey, ape, whatever -- and I don't want to know. The more it looks like a human, the less interested I am!

newcastlemam · 02-19-2013, 09:42 AM

To be fair I am 24 and a mother of a 6 year old and a 4 year old I had my first daughter 3 weeks after my 18th birthday.
I always knew my house would be full of animals aswell though and I now have 2 dogs a cat and a hammy.
Kids or not I still love my animals and when I finally pass my degree and me and OH are not just relying on 1 wage we will buy a bigger house simply because I want more animals and at the mo there is no more room.
I hope no one judges me for having my children young I just always had a strong maternal instinct.

bgfloyd · 02-20-2013, 01:46 PM

If they're still doing this when you've let them know that it upsets you then they're bullies. Don't let them upset you about having an interest in something you care about. Not everyone likes the same things, but that shouldn't be a reason to upset someone about it. I hope you get well soon Char, and enjoy spending the time with Daisy

Eriklover555 · 02-20-2013, 09:47 PM

Don't listen to the idiots! >.< I just got my first two hamsters, and I'm twenty-three! Not to mention, the whole kid/hamster thing is really bad here in America. I've just learned not to listen to people whose brains aren't quite as highly evolved as my own.

People are going to bully you no matter what kind of pets you have, or what you wear, or even how you speak. The only people who matter are the ones that you love, or the ones who love you.

HollyHamster · 02-21-2013, 02:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Kissa

The bf tells me my maternal instincts are wired wrong ;mad: Show me a baby animal and I am all over it, but a baby primate -- human, monkey, ape, whatever -- and I don't want to know. The more it looks like a human, the less interested I am!

I am a little different. I love babies of all types. However, when the human babies start to walk, and talk, and get into things, their charm wears off on me. Especially when they run around and screech and scream and cry. I hate when a small child cries. Its one of those things that I can't stand.

newcastlemam, I won't judge you for having children at that age. I understand that things happen.