RIP Mushu - Page 6

Millie · 06-09-2017, 10:27 AM

Oh no.. I am so so sorry for your loss

Please don't feel any guilt towards the idea of getting another hamster, some people grieve in many different ways. I know personally I like to do it whilst bonding with a new furry friend. Do whatever feels right for you

Mushu was a gorgeous little boy who will never be forgotten, I hope he rests in peace ❤️ xx

Golden_Syrian_Hammmies · 06-09-2017, 12:48 PM

Awh April I am sooooo sorry to hear this

I was in work and checked my emails as I got the notification through. I am shocked and very sad for you. I just want to say like everyone has already please please please don't beat yourself up over this or your mum. When I read what happened I knew instantly that it sounds to be internal and as a result of his genetical makeup. It would have been not as a result of anything either of you had done. He was such a beautiful boy and it's very sad he died so young and in this way. I am so gutted for you and your mum. He was very much loved and he would have known that. You are grieving and that is very normal he meant so very much to you and it will take time. Comfort yourself in that you loved him and gave him a good home for his short life and what happened was more than likely an underlying health problem.
Please don't feel guilty about thinking about giving another little hammy a good home. And it doesn't take away from what you had with mushu. I know when Fudge eventually passes on I will be very sad but I know that I will be looking for another Syrian to give a good home even though I have my dwarf Alfie too. So don't feel bad and it is in no way a slight to their memory. Just give yourself time. Glad you will go for a breeder ham if you do as they are a totally different kettle of fish compared with pet shop hams as they have been bred with health in mind. Enjoy the show on the 17th! You will love it and if a little one catches your eye and heart go for it

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Rads · 06-09-2017, 04:06 PM

Hi AP,
Pip and I are so sorry for your loss of Mushu, I trust that he will be having Mushu havoc where ever he is now.
Do not blame your self in any way shape or form, He could have quite easily have had a haemorrhage that you could do nothing about.
I do not think that your Mom caused any harm, Hammies are rather tough little critters, Pip has launched herself into mid air before and landed a meter down on the floor with no ill effects..!
Get another Hammie, give him or her a loving home, that is what we did with Pip after our beloved Forrest was PTS due to illness, Forrest is buried in our garden with a Rosemary bush above him.
Each Hammie has their own character they are never the same, they bring smiles and love even as they have such a short time with us, read the little poem at the bottom of my posts, I think it says it all
Our thoughts go with you, Pip sends you a little Hammie Hug and a whisker kiss or two.

Thin Lizzy · 06-09-2017, 08:54 PM

AprilPearl, you are not selfish for thinking about getting another ham, I meant what I said when I sent you a pm, you have a heart of gold, a heart of love and kindness. We all felt your love for Mushu and you have so much love to offer another ham.
Go to the show and should you see a ham then go with your heart, no one's going to judge you here, we have all been there, it's heartbreaking losing our furries and someone once said to me that I should get a pet with a longer life span, that was after my first hamster 16 years ago. I love hamsters, yes they don't have a long life but they give so much love and joy, every hamster is different that's what makes them extra special. Since joining HC in 2014, I've learnt so much, met wonderful people, been given such great advice, I've lost a couple of hams since joining and it's everyone here who got me through it and I'm so grateful.
Also, I can come on here and talk hamsters, ramble on about Master Harvey and not be judged for being a crazy hamster woman lol!
Big Hugs XXX

AprilPearl · 06-09-2017, 10:52 PM

Thank you dreamtree, Hamsterita, Millie, Golden_Syrian_Hammies, Rads, ThinLizzy.

Rads I agree with you. My Mum has as many years of experience with hamsters as I do and she knows how to handle them. I really don't see how there is any way she could have caused this. Of course, because it happened on her watch she feels horribly guilty, but I've told her to stop blaming herself. She loved Mushu too and has been crying buckets with me. Give Pip a hug from me.

ThinLizzy I have to thank you again for your private messages. They helped me vent a lot of feelings. I am so grateful to you for sharing your perspective in this. I really value it. P.S. There is no shame in being a crazy hamster lady! I earned that monicker years ago when I wouldn't shut up about my first hamster at school. If only I had known about that forum then...

emojimom · 06-09-2017, 11:08 PM

Oh no! I am so very sorry to come across this thread. I'm so sorry for your loss.

AprilPearl · 06-09-2017, 11:32 PM

Thank you emojimum. Sorry you had to come across it too

AprilPearl · 06-09-2017, 11:40 PM

I don't even know what's wrong with me. I just implusively spent a stupid amount of money yesterday evening buying stuff to do up Mushu's new cage. And when I say a stupid amount... I mean a stupid amount. Then crying because I know he's gone and buying him things won't change that. I knew it was ridiculous and I should stop at the time, but in the moment it made me feel better to be able to pretend nothing had changed. For some reason, I desperately want to complete my plans for the cage. As though I owe it to him. Maybe I'm just in denial. Actually, I know I'm in denial. I just have this mental block where I will not think about him being dead. It's so weird. I only had him 2 months but I keep catching myself thinking: "Mushu will be awake now" or "time to give Mushu breakfast" and every time I pass his room "Oh no! The door is open! What if a cat gets in!!"

AmityvilleHams · 06-10-2017, 12:01 AM

It's very hard to get past that denial part of mourning,but it's certainly possible.You'll know when though,not anyone else.I think many people have felt that way,I certainly have many times over.

Perhaps you feel that things have been left unfinished other than just cage plans and this may simply be a very unique way for your brain and heart to tell you so,even if it isn't a way you'd like to be told.There are so many different reasons that people feel this way,so it really is once again something you must figure out yourself.

No matter what,just remember that nothing is wrong with you.Mourning is completely normal,and not something you should ever feel bad for

Golden_Syrian_Hammmies · 06-10-2017, 12:21 AM

It's still very raw and the shock of it as you never expected it to happen and were not prepared for it. It's hard. With hamsters they could potentially go at any time and cancer is even so common for them too. You will feel a void and that's completely normal. It's horrible as they become so much part of your every day and you miss them. Im so sorry for you that mushu never got to enjoy his new home

but if it helps with the healing and occupies you giving you something positive to do around the situation you should make up the cage and play about with it designing it how you like. It will make a lovely new home for the time whenever you are ready. As others have said hamsters live auch a short time but they are wonderful little creatures. I've had many in my life time when I was a teenager and they still are in my memory especially pebbles and 'hammy' who lived a very long time and I was devasted when I had him PTS. After him that was the end of hammies for 10 years until August 2015 and I decided I wanted to experience owning and loving a hamster again. I don't know how I went so long without a little furry butt! I hope you are feeling better soon and your mum too. Look after yourself and don't leave HC!

x