unsocial hammy

[Calvin]

I love my little ham (Calvin) so much, we've tried all the tricks to try and get him to enjoy being handled. Such as placing him in the bath, puting treats in our hands, only ever lifting him slightly off the floor (in his play box), he just doesn't like being lifted, we've never been able to pick him up. He'll sit in our hands when he eats and doesn't mind being stroked, just can't seem to get him used to being handled. I really want to be able to take him out of his box/ cage and be able to put him on the bed and play with him in my hands but doesn't seem like he'll ever want to.
Is there anything else I can do? Been trying for 3 months now.

Sub question:
Me and my boyfriend have just broken up, our hammy lives at my boyfriends house and I obviously want to have him with me. Problem is I might have to travel a couple of days a week so he might be left alone for 2 days now and then, I'm also moving in a month and going on holiday for 2 weeks where he'd have to be moved back to my boyfriends house. Would this be too stressful for Calvin?
With me he'd be handled more and cleaned out more often, where as at my boyfriends he'd have someone there all the time. I obviously want what's best for my little vin

Thank you for any help!!

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[Cinnamon Bear]

When is your 2 week vacation & upcoming move? Does your boyfriend like & take good care of Calvin? I might wait until after the move & 2 week vacation then bring him home then?

Depends on alot of factors that I don't know all of them so it's a hard decision I'm sure. But taming wise the hamster is best with less stress & familiar environment.

My hamsters don't let me play with them either, all 6 of them, outside of their cage. I think that's normal, just be glad Calvin doesn't bite

I'd keep trying to tame but don't force anything. Just go at his pace & don't give up on him if he doesn't turn out to be what you hoped for?

[cypher]

He doesn't sound what I would call unsocial to me, some hams just don't particularly like being handled, if he's tame enough to sit on your hand & interact in the play bin then he's fine, just not a cuddly ham, you do have to work with their individual personalities & they are all different.
As to where he would be better off I guess that depends how often you would have to leave him alone for two days, I don't like to leave them for more than a day at most tbh, they are usually safe enough & you can easily provide food & water for that amount of time but I'm a bit of a worrier & prefer to know I'm there just in case something happens! Do you have someone who could look in on him & maybe even get him out when you're away?
If you boyfriend can give him adequate care then he may be better there.
Whatever decision you make I would wait until after your holiday ideally, moving back & forth would be quite stressful.