I have a trixie wheel that I use as a spare because it bangs on the stand. It was a bit quieter when I had it attached to a cage once.
I tried the silent spinner but that was SOOOO noisy so I would not recommend. I sent that back.
I have the silent runner. which is expensive but is silent. You only hear the patter of the hamsters feet and I have had 3 of those wheels and not had a problem with any of them.
I know people that have used the big Savic Rolly Wheel, that they think is quite quiet.
I have also used the Savic Orbital which was squeaky when I got it, but I put some vegetable oil on the back of it and it is now quiet.
I have noise sensitivity issues as part of my illness, so I appreciate how you must be feeling.
I have a playlist which has a video on the silent runner and the savic orbital.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?lis...oAGx3330xqx7Vy
One other thing I thought of, have you tried turning the wheel upside down and attaching from the roof, I have seen people do that, will you still have the problem of it being noisy?