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Old 09-11-2017, 07:10 AM   #1
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I moved to a new apartment a couple months ago and my cat now seems to hate men. She even hates grandpa now and she used to sleep in his lap.
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Old 09-11-2017, 11:37 AM   #2
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Cats are very territorial and can take a long time to settle in to a new place. One of ours took ages to figure out she didn't get fed on the bathroom any more when we moved - she'd been fed in the bathroom in the old place but never here but she'd still ahout every day for ages for her food from there first thing. The best thing I can suggest is to give her plenty of time & space. Cats & hamsters are surprisingly similar personality wise, I think. Make sure she has "safe" spaces to hide out - under the bed is good & somewhere higher she can observe from. And I don't know if you have products like feliway in the states but it's a plug in pheromone that can be calming. Something's spooked her but I'm sure she's settle back down in time.
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Old 09-12-2017, 09:41 AM   #3
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If its a case of her territorial then why is it only men and not all other people other than me. Like she's always been territorial when it came to other animals like she would terrorize out dog we had even though he was bigger than her and had all four of his legs and she also hated all other cats other than her son and the other cats she was I'm assuming raised with but never mean to humans so why now.
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Old 09-12-2017, 10:54 AM   #4
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Until we learn to speak cat, it's impossible to fully tell I don't know why she's taken a particular dislike to men. Maybe one of the removal men spooked her? When I said they're territorial, I meant that when that balance is upset they can behave in weird ways such as taking a dislike to certain people. How long is it since you moved? Like I said before, the best thing you can do is give plenty of space & time.
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Old 09-12-2017, 08:38 PM   #5
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Its been about two months sense i moved and there were no men that helped me move. It was me and two other woman and this is the 3rd time I moved with her and this is the first time she's behaved like this and iv had her for around 9 years.
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Old 09-12-2017, 10:44 PM   #6
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I'm sorry that your cat is now having a difficult time with men. Maybe she has a memory from her past of a man harming or scaring her that has now just resurfaced or been triggered for some unknown reason. I would just keep on being comforting and patient with her and give her plenty of space so she feels less threatened and territorial. Hopefully, she will regain her trust of men and will feel comfortable and accepting of them again. Fingers crossed! I'm sure that it must be extra hard for your grandpa, too. How sad that things have changed in this way, but I will be praying that it will change back again.
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Old 09-13-2017, 05:18 AM   #7
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Hmm she apparently lost her front leg back when she was with her original owner because of friend of his kicked her so you are probably correct though i wonder what triggered it since male rarely come into to my apartment.
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Old 09-13-2017, 02:40 PM   #8
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Memories are strange sometimes. They can be buried deep in the subconscious mind, and it is difficult to ascertain what will trigger certain deeply painful, stored memories (especially those dealing with tragedy or abuse). Unfortunately, it is apparent that your beloved cat has been through quite a lot of trauma in her earlier life prior to living with you; maybe it is a smell, a sound, or a change that made her fear of and animosity for men resurface. Even though she might have come into contact with or experienced these potential triggers in the past, sometimes it may not trigger the memories then and they will resurface at a later encounter with these triggers. Sometimes it is the quantity of triggers and other times it is the magnitude of one specific event. Who knows exactly what caused this to occur, but all that is truly certain is that she needs all the extra loving care and support that you, your family, and friends can give to her. She is a cat with much unresolved pain inside, so it will probably take some time for her to feel completely comfortable around men (and maybe she never will again). Just love her unconditionally as you have always done and be vigilant that she doesn't have unsupervised meetings with men while she is in this state so she won't feel the need to go deeper in her shell or even possibly lash out due to fear. Bless her, and I hope that she will be better soon and regain her confidence and love for men. It will take lots of patience, time, and love. Good luck! Take care, Sukirutski, and hugs to you. Cuddles to your cat, too. Btw, what is her name and will you attach a picture so I can put a face and name to your feline pal?
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Old 09-13-2017, 03:28 PM   #9
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https://pbs.twimg.com/media/DGMYGe1VwAAFZ1M.jpg

Her real name is Storm but she does not respond to it so I just call her mama kitty or 3 legged spawn of satan
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Thanks for sharing Mama Kitty's pics with us; she has beautiful markings. Also, I hope you don't mind me asking, "Why do you sometimes refer to her as '3-legged spawn of Satan'"? Please forgive me for saying this, but I can't help but be saddened by that name; I know you love her so why give her a name that can be hurtful and conjure up fear in others when they hear it? Are you just being sarcastic and joking around?
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