Anyone else married to someone not thrilled with your pets?

[Sandrilene]

I'm just curious. My husband does ok with the guinea pigs sometimes but mostly ignores them and completely ignores the hams. Its sort of depressing because i love them so much and him. anyone have suggestions on how i could improve his attitude? i am highly allergic to cats and we work nights so a dog would be stupid and those are the only animals he seems remotely interested in. i feel disconnected because i try to share his interests with him and he doesn`t seem to care about mine at all. i'd really just like him to try or something. yeah i know this post is a little but its how i feel so.... and i don`t want to say anything and get in a fight while my mom is visiting.

[shazzy]

My OH dan isn't thrilled by them either - he made an effort with mo, then a bit of an effort with daisy, but he doesn't have much time for the girls I have now sadly. He isn't mean about them, just doesn't really show any interest. Saying that he tries to be allowing with my interest, and accepts they mean alot to me. He does think I spend too much time fussing over them!

[lisab]

I can guess that hams and other small animals arent very manish compared to maybe a dog or cat. Or some people just dont like certain animals, I cant stand rats so avoid them. Where as if any of my friends got a new ham or rabbit i would be cooing like anything
I think it maybe one of them things, I know its hard but try to not worry about it, If he doesnt want to bother with them then its his loss.

[Erin Loves Dwarf Hamsters]

Thats such a shame My OH adores my hamsters and cant understand how anyone could dislike them. Does your husband actually dislike hamsters or is he just uniterested? Maybe you could have him ham sit or have some cuddle time with one in the hope that he bonds a little with it? It only takes one ham to make you fall in love with all of them
In the end I dont think you can really force him to like them, it may just be one of those things :/ Have you ever told him how you feel about wanting him to be a little more interested in them? Even if its just to humour you If he still doesnt want to try not to let it upset you and just focus on the other interests that you share, there is no point dwelling on something that you cant change

Hope you can work something out

[emilyweb]

When/ if I get married I'll have a check list
1: do you love hamsters?
2: do you like spending large amounts of money on hamster cages?
haha I'm of course joking but I don't think I could bear it if I was married to someone who didn't love hammies

[Demecat]

I'm not married but my dad often appears uninterested in any animal I've had. However, I know that he often visited my horse (I used to own one) and fed him carrots. When I went to a hamster show (despite saying he wasn't bothered), I knew he had a slight interest in it because he kept on asking if Rory had been judged yet and watched the hamster racing. He will randomly walk into my room and look at my hamsters too.

[Hamtastic]

Aw My OH's come around to my hams a lot over time. He checks on my hams often and talks to them. He especially likes Dora, Lucy, and Hamilton, as they are my most interactive hams who always need to know what's going on around them and will come out to look at him/walk on his hand. With other hamsters, he'll just say "they don't ever do anything", which is to say, they don't come out to greet him and do their own hamster thing

I try to be realistic though. The hams were my idea and are my responsibility. I pay for them and take care of them. I've made an emergency care sheet for him that's sitting in a ham folder on my desktop, so at least I feel ok knowing that if anything happens, my hams will be looked after. But I don't expect him to do anything before that!

[vanilla-yazoo]

My boyfriend will hold a ham, he used to get terry or fred out, but terry had a bad phase and he got bitten by nancy when she was young, now he dosnt hold them but strokes them and gives all but terry kisses. His fav is sko shi.

He wants a big dog and a cat but we live in my parents house with lots of animals and people so we can't.
Maybe pop a ham on his sholder when he is on the pc? Or sofa then move away so he has to play lol!

Maybe take him shopping at a pet shop my oh is intrested in gerbils now and we keep fish, they are not hard to keep and relaxing

[kyrilliondaemon]

Fortunately for me thats not an issue, but it'd bother me too if it was.

Maybe ask him if he'd be willing to help out with them sometimes? Or explain how you feel and see how he reacts? I've learnt recently that even when it seems awkward/difficult its often best to be honest with people about issues, as in the end they might react well, badly or indifferently, but at least then its in the open and you aren't left swearing quietly to yourself about it as much anymore. He might be willing to try spending time with them for you, or even just to humour you by joining you giving them play-time or something.
As Erin said, if he still doesn't want to try then it might be best to accept it and focus on other interests you do share.

Good luck with it.

[Sandrilene]

i guess its more bothering m that he doesn`t seem interested in even trying when i would for him then it is that he doesn`t seem to like them. that and he is against more. i am really interested in getting a syrian or a couple of robos. but i am completely in love with echo so its sad he doesn`t seem interested in her at all. i play mmos and board games for HOURS for him mostly because i can easily do without but he won`t do things that matter to me if he doesn`t like them. and the table top rpgs none of these i`m particularly good at but i try hard and do it because he likes it and so its important to me. i just wish he would reciprocate. .... wishing too much there? how do u get yours to do things with u and not be all whiny about doing them?