Anyone else married to someone not thrilled with your pets? - Page 2

**kyrilliondaemon** · 12-24-2011, 01:54 PM

Awww

I'm really lucky and me and Alex tend to have most of our interests as similar things anyway, and some of those we're less interested in we just deal with alone and mention to each other when theres something we think the other would like.
Although to be honest, I could probably ask Alex to do something he hated and he'd still be happy to do it, just to make me happy lol, hence knowing I'm really, really lucky with him.
I hate that I've had an injury restricting what I can do since June, he's just found the bright side. We might not be able to go out walking all day now, but he's decided that the bright side is that now he has a reason to stop me doing my fair share of the chores lol
(If I do too much I risk a few days of needing painkillers, and at first I was on painkillers constantly however little I did. He even joined me on all hospital visits and stuff and was better about the amount of time they wasted than I was lol)

If there ever was an issue though I think we'd just need to try and talk about it. I'm pretty confident that sooner or later we'd find a compromise we were both ok with.

Erin Loves Dwarf Hamsters · 12-24-2011, 01:56 PM

Quote:

i guess its more bothering m that he doesn`t seem interested in even trying when i would for him then it is that he doesn`t seem to like them. that and he is against more. i am really interested in getting a syrian or a couple of robos. but i am completely in love with echo so its sad he doesn`t seem interested in her at all. i play mmos and board games for HOURS for him mostly because i can easily do without but he won`t do things that matter to me if he doesn`t like them. and the table top rpgs none of these i`m particularly good at but i try hard and do it because he likes it and so its important to me. i just wish he would reciprocate. .... wishing too much there? how do u get yours to do things with u and not be all whiny about doing them?

It sounds like you are putting a lot more effort in than he is

Maybe without turning it into an argument you could point out what you do for him and just let him know how happy it would make you if he did the same for you? It certainly isnt wishing to much hun, the whole concept of relationships is that they are give and take not just a one way thing

Quote:

how do u get yours to do things with u and not be all whiny about doing them?

With promises of cuddles

He doesnt really get whiny to be honest, we just enjoy doing things together and share most of our interests - gaming, photography, nattering and cuddles etc

(he even joined HC because Im on here

). In general my OH is very selfless and will do things just to make me happy and vice versa but if there are days when there is something I really need him to do and he is feeling a bit lazy about it I strike a deal usually along the lines of "Do this for me and Ill make you a cheese and ham sandwich" that always works

Even on busy days though we always make time to sit and talk for a few hours that way nothing goes un said and if there ever are any issues they can be resolved quickly and easily

**Eleanor** · 12-24-2011, 02:02 PM

Weeelll, obviously I'm not married cos I'm fifteen XD
BUT, whenever one my hamsters die or I get a new one, my brother tuts and is like 'not another one!'

And also, my MUMS boyfriend fancies himself as a psychologist and thinks my hammies are a substitue for a boyfriend and that I should just get a boyfriend and get rid of them. He's rather odd...

StarlightSerenity · 12-24-2011, 03:12 PM

My other half didn't seem too thrilled about getting a hamster but soon came to love her and pays just as much attention to her as I do. She only lets him stroke her lol.

I'm lucky, my other half will take an interest in the things I like/do and I'll do the same with the things he likes and does. He doesn't like Sims or crafting but will always take an interest - asking about them, giving me a hand when I need it, giving me (constructive) critisism when I ask for it and what have you.

To be honest, I wouldn't want to be with someone who wasn't like that. We're not married but plan on getting married in the relatively near future (all depends on money).

**LocoRocoPanda** · 12-24-2011, 03:22 PM

I'm engaged...Let that settle for a moment...

Mr Panda isn't all that into hams but he does like Izu and Shisui. Izu he's actually gotten out of his ball for a cuddle before.

Shisui he's held for a while before. He likes my calmer hams to say Tobi or Cecil.

I'd get annoyed if he showed no interest at all -.-

Mikayla · 12-24-2011, 03:34 PM

I'm not married (obviously) but my mom and brother show no interest in the hams. My mom will call Percy cute and adorable (He is, you can't deny it) but my brother just jokes about feeding him to the snake -.-'

My dad isn't totally in love with them but will say hello to the hams when he comes home from work and goes down and sees the chins every day, he feeds them apple sticks.

He builds me cages though

<3 <3

**Hamtastic** · 12-24-2011, 03:53 PM

To be honest, it sounds like he's just generally only interested in his own hobbies. MMOs and games tend to draw people in, and they wake up thinking about those games and go to sleep thinking about them--everything else being secondary. So maybe you need to talk to him (and if you have, talk again) about your life together, and the impact his own hobbies are having on you. That you do live together and should make sacrifices and try to be interested in each other's favorite things but also respect the differences and try to balance them.

TraceyH · 12-24-2011, 04:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sandrilene

i guess its more bothering m that he doesn`t seem interested in even trying when i would for him then it is that he doesn`t seem to like them. that and he is against more. i am really interested in getting a syrian or a couple of robos. but i am completely in love with echo so its sad he doesn`t seem interested in her at all. i play mmos and board games for HOURS for him mostly because i can easily do without but he won`t do things that matter to me if he doesn`t like them. and the table top rpgs none of these i`m particularly good at but i try hard and do it because he likes it and so its important to me. i just wish he would reciprocate. .... wishing too much there? how do u get yours to do things with u and not be all whiny about doing them?

I reckon he's against you getting more hams because he's worried you'll have less spare time to sit playing boring old games for hours on end with him

I dunno what the answer to your problem is either. I'm just happy that I'm not married or live with anyone besides my 25 year old son, two birds and 4 hams as I like a stress-free life

**LocoRocoPanda** · 12-25-2011, 05:08 AM

EXCUSE ME! I'm doing a special article on Game Compulsion right now. -.- I think the stigma games get are really unfair as I work in the games industry and suffered from Game Compulsion myself.

It's quite a serious addiction and it needs to be taken seriously. It's easy to write it off as just someone being a geek or whatever. PM me if you'd like advice on how to deal with someone with game addiction. I've beaten it myself.

Still got over 1000 hours on some games though.

Lucinda · 12-25-2011, 05:23 AM

I have 2 friends who are addicted to games, it's scary and no idea how to help them as I've never really been a gamer, let alone had an addiction to gaming :/ I know addiction is an illness tho

On the topic of men, well, they like whatever I tell them to like ;D
Hehe just kidding. My boyfriend wasn't too fussed about the hams when he first met them, but he's gradually falling in love with them.

Just explain to him that you'd like him to take an interest