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Old 04-15-2012, 02:06 PM   #21
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We're a bunch of idiots really then- if your mum was right that is . I wonder if shed be willing to dispute everyone here
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Old 04-15-2012, 02:20 PM   #22
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Thanks everyone, it means a lot being able to come here and speak to like minded people. Even if my mum thinks we are "a couple of idiots" at least we are not alone! xx
We just spent £200 on our hams. We're definetly as "idiotic" as you are, don't worry lol
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Old 04-15-2012, 04:03 PM   #23
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I really hope everything gets better between you and your mom. *hugs*

My parents don't really understand what I see in hamsters either. My dad has had be experiences with rodents as a kid and funny enough my mom had hamsters as a kid but now she says she just thinks theyre cute and doesn't really care for them...

When I first got Max I was really worried about him because I thought he could be sick with wet tail as his bum was wet. It turns out he was just fine (lady did not clean his cage out well. there was these...sheets of poo stuck to the bottom and the corners were all nasty) but when I asked my parents if i could take him to the vet my dad said no and that he wasn't going to spend $120 on a $20 pet. (I highly doubt it would have cost that much for a just a check up....) I balled when he said that and was mad at him for days. I just don't understand how a hamster should be treated differently from a dog. Don't get me wrong, I love my dog just as much as i love Max, but I fail to see how its different....

Sorry if that was long....
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Old 04-15-2012, 04:51 PM   #24
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When I first got Max I was really worried about him because I thought he could be sick with wet tail as his bum was wet. It turns out he was just fine (lady did not clean his cage out well. there was these...sheets of poo stuck to the bottom and the corners were all nasty) but when I asked my parents if i could take him to the vet my dad said no and that he wasn't going to spend $120 on a $20 pet. (I highly doubt it would have cost that much for a just a check up....) I balled when he said that and was mad at him for days. I just don't understand how a hamster should be treated differently from a dog. Don't get me wrong, I love my dog just as much as i love Max, but I fail to see how its different
Ahhh I'd hate it if my parents pulled something like that fortunately I work and so if anything does happen to my hammy I can take care of it. Thing is most of the people that do not understand us see it as a waste of money trying to improve a hamster's health because they have such short life spans and because they are fairly less expensive than a dog. I completely disagree with people who think a dog or a cat is has more worth than a hamster. I love my dog too, but I also love my hamster and I would do the best I can for both of them if anything were to happen to my babies
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Old 04-15-2012, 04:54 PM   #25
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I have this all the time, My dad always says "don't get attached to this one now" whenever I have a new baby.. And the other day I was talking about another hamster we are getting and my mum said " You wont be taking this one to the vet will you? they conned you last time and Pickle still died" grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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Old 04-15-2012, 06:58 PM   #26
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Ahhh I'd hate it if my parents pulled something like that fortunately I work and so if anything does happen to my hammy I can take care of it.
Lucky. I'm not old enough to have a "real job" yet, I have to be 16 before i can be hired. So I have to rely off of babysitting money, but my sister is the one who gets all of the jobs, I'm the back up XD I'm tempted to offer to pet sit for the people in my town, walk dogs, and clean small animal cages. I might as well, seems like a good idea to me....
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Old 04-16-2012, 09:43 AM   #27
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Family bonds can be strong and feelings can run high when one member comes across as uncaring or seemingly rude. I once asked my half sister (married with four kids) if she would run me to the vet with a pet rat I had at the time who I adored as he seemed to be choking one Saturday morning and the vets were only open for a few hours. I had to phone her and she came down in her car. All the way there and back, all she could retort was how much she hated rats and she could `"smell him" and would screw her face up. On retruning home, I kept my cool and thanked her for her help and closed the car door. But from that day on, I have not given her the time of day. She hurt my feelings so much just by commenting the way she did, that I told myself I didn`t need whinging idiots like her around me and luckily, I don`t see her often these days anyway or I`m sure she would have a snooty remark to make.

I`m 47 now and my mother is nearly 73 and I chose to stay with my mother and never marry or have kids, so any pets I do have are my children in their own magical way and when people choose to comment negitively, they should realise that they are hurting my feelings just by saying they don`t like rats or they think hamsters are evil because they bite or mice are vermin. It all comes down to ignorance to a certain extent, but when it`s family, it can come across as if they are saying they don`t like you if they don`t like your pets and that`s what hurts.

I only keep hamsters now because they suit my lifestyle and energy levels and hamsters in general seem to be well tolerated by people, but try mentioning rats and mice and see the reaction on their faces!

I used to be rather ignorant of spiders, snakes and reptiles in general, but I now respect anyone who has a passion for their chosen pet because everyone is different. Some people have a love only for dogs, some for cats, some for tropical fish....but intollerance in society is a hard habit to break when it comes to acceptance of attitudes and sadly, some individuals will always think it`s good to criticise.

As far as I`m concerned, family or not, if they can`t respect that my pets are my life, then they are shown the door rather quickly and usually stay on the outside.

We are all the richer for having our hamsters in our lives and people who choose to criticise are only missing out on a wonderful experience. They have no life.
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Old 04-17-2012, 01:31 AM   #28
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I know exactly what you mean, I've just had an argument with the OH over my latest hamster addition. When I bought my syrian Gimli, there was a little chinese dwarf Chan in the adoption part of the pet shop, I was told they got rehomed quickly and I didn't want two hamsters so I didn't buy him. Anyway he has been on my mind since and when I went back yesterday (5 weeks since I bought Gimli) the poor little guy was still there. I felt guilty for leaving him in the first place so I adopted him and brought him home.
Well my OH went nuts...He said I'm 21 and shouldn't be getting two hamsters, that I'm rediculous and stupid, and what really hurt my feelings was that he said It was really wierd. He told me to get rid of him.
I don't understand the issue, my OH doesn't clean/look after the hammys and I have my own massive room which certainly isn't overcrowded/an eyesore with two cages.
Even when I explained that he was in the adoption bit for so long he still didn't get it, he seems to think that I'm gonna keep collecting hamsters.
I don't know what to do Chan certainly isn't going back!
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Old 04-17-2012, 06:53 AM   #29
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I can speak as the mother of an adult child - he's thirty four and his partner twenty eight. Its not the age difference its thoughtlessness. My Mom's still alive and calls them rats, meaning feral rats. Ok, she doesn't like any rodent but to me mine are my little babies and I love them more than anything. My lad's 6'2" and works out but to see him cry when one's ill or dies he's my little boy again. He has some brilliant tattoos as well! He was bought up to love animals and respect others so what do a few tattoos matter.
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Old 04-17-2012, 07:03 AM   #30
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student1304, I would seriously question a partner who`s attitude is such that he can`t accept that you wanted to give a good home to a needy pet. A hamster isn`t a dog at the end of the day, so it`s not as if he will even notice it? Makes you wonder whether people like this have domineering attitudes and like to control others. Not for me thankyou. To tell you that your are stupid? Well, I`m afraid it wouldn`t be the hamster I would be getting rid of!
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