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Old 04-17-2016, 03:36 AM   #1
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Default How to ask for another hamster ?

As I adore hamsters so very very much, I was thinking of asking for a dwarf hamster for my birthday in October.
It would be my only birthday present - I have done all the research, I know what cage I want and what supplies I want. My only problem is - how do I ask my parents?
They can be very stubborn sometimes and I'm not really sure how to approach them. I was thinking of asking them around August-September time - I have watched lots of videos on YouTube on 'convincing your parents for a hamster' and have done all of that - my only problem now is asking them

Any advice?

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Old 04-17-2016, 03:41 AM   #2
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You kind of go about asking for another pet the same way you'd go about asking for any pet to begin with.Be confident,mature,do not panic or react negatively if they say no.Essentially all the general things with any other pet,but be sure to find out any concerns your parents would have about a second hamster like extra cost and all that and how you'd pay for it.It's really the same as asking for any other pet,you just might have some slightly different concerns to address.
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Old 04-17-2016, 03:56 AM   #3
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I think with most parents the biggest frustration is the fact that they tend to wind up taking care of the animal. Second thing to remember is that if you don't already have the supplies it can be quite expensive from the start. You need a proper sized cage, food, chews, not to mention possible vet bills. My Dwarf Sirius has been to the vet twice and has about four different prescriptions he's taking to get healthy enough to come home. Food and bedding will also be an ongoing cost as well so bear this in mind.

That isn't to Deter you, it's to give you a look into what your parents might be thinking when it comes to getting a hamster. Second thing to remember is that they are nocturnal which means if you are a light sleeper he will keep you up which can be harmful to school work.

Find ways of showing them you can be responsible, help out around the house without them asking, work on getting good grades in class, and show them you've done your research by sharing the information you've found with them. And even more importantly don't stop doing those things if they do say yes.

Most importantly don't be too disappointed if they say no. They might have their reasons for doing so. It doesn't hurt to ask why.

If they do say yes, be sure that you follow through with anything you've promised to do. That means not forgetting to clean the cage or feed your hamster.

I wish you the best of luck and I hope this helps!
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Old 04-17-2016, 04:02 AM   #4
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Always ask why!It helps much more than pouting and being angry,and it can actually lead to being able to work out a way for something to work instead of it being a problem.
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Old 04-17-2016, 04:22 AM   #5
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I can't remember if you have a hamster (or a few hamsters!) already. The advice above is good. You could try a 'deal'! And be quite specific as well - say if you know a breeder that will have hamsters ready near that time. Like - I would very much like a hamster from xyz breeder for my birthday. I would save for the cage if I could have it for my birthday - they will be ready to leave the breeder around that time.

If they absolutely don't want another hamster in the house, there isn't much you can do about it - but enjoy the one/ones you have
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Old 04-17-2016, 04:26 AM   #6
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Thank you for the replies everyone!
I will also be paying a portion of the starting cost so they'd be paying just as much as they would on a regular birthday
Sleep for me isn't an issue because I'm a very deep sleeper - if I can sleep through the noise willow makes I can probably sleep through a bomb going off
Space also isn't an issue because I have a big, empty space in my room - the perfect place for a hamster cage!
My parents definitely won't end up caring for it - I sometimes help care for my younger sisters' hamster (they are 6 and 8 so sometimes forget) as well as Willow!
Is there anything else that should be covered?
As for cages I know which one I want - the Duna is about £35 on PortonAquaPet so I'm leaning towards that one!
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Old 04-17-2016, 04:28 AM   #7
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I can't see why they would object, the way you have just explained it! You just need to say the same to them now. Good luck with it. Although October is a long way off!
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I can't remember if you have a hamster (or a few hamsters!) already. The advice above is good. You could try a 'deal'! And be quite specific as well - say if you know a breeder that will have hamsters ready near that time. Like - I would very much like a hamster from xyz breeder for my birthday. I would save for the cage if I could have it for my birthday - they will be ready to leave the breeder around that time.

If they absolutely don't want another hamster in the house, there isn't much you can do about it - but enjoy the one/ones you have
I actually only own Willow at the moment - I'm definitely not going into this blindly either! I have watched a huge amount of YouTube videos and we owned a pair of WW before so I do have experience in owning them!
The 'deal' thing is a good idea - thank you!

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I can't see why they would object, the way you have just explained it! You just need to say the same to them now. Good luck with it. Although October is a long way off!
Haha yes I know October is a long way off - I love to be prepared! When I got Willow (she was for my last birthday ) we actually got her earlier than we expected because our pet shop only let's you reserve a hamster for about a week before it expires (not the hamster, the reservation lol) so we had to be quick haha!

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Old 04-17-2016, 05:29 AM   #9
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Haha yes I know October is a long way off - I love to be prepared! When I got Willow (she was for my last birthday ) we actually got her earlier than we expected because our pet shop only let's you reserve a hamster for about a week before it expires (not the hamster, the reservation lol) so we had to be quick haha!
Like Serendipity said sounds like you are really very prepared.

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Old 04-17-2016, 09:20 AM   #10
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Maybe you could approach the subject now. It will at least give them time to think about it and discuss it with each other and you. Otherwise if you mention it a month before your birthday they may say no as it may too be rushed for them to think about getting everything ready. Also, discussing it now means it gives you time to shop around and get everything. Have you had dwarf hamsters before? If not, do you have a friend who has one that maybe your parents will agree to you looking after for a weekend or something? This is a good way of showing them that you can and will take care of them, whilst also proving that your current hamster's care will not change. I got my first hamster, Harry, for my 10th birthday and looked after someone else's for a weekend to sort of "prove" I would take care of one!
I don't know if you do this already, but if you get an allowence you could make a deal to use some of it towards the cost of the hamsters - food, bedding etc. May also be worth finding out from them whether they are willing to pay vet bills if needed, or not. If they are not you will need to consider saving money for this - you could open a savings account or ask your parents to put aside part of your allowence. Maybe even mentioning that would let them see how serious you are, and they may even agree to pay the vet bills, or half the vet bills.
Another thing to think about ... You mentioned both your sisters have hamsters. Although they are younger than you, are they going to understand that you have a second hamster because you are older? My siblings and I are all very close in age so if one of us had a new pet we all wanted one! Maybe you could agree to allowing your sisters to play with the hamster or something if there is a chance of them getting upset about it. Then there is of course the cleaning, what would happen if you were ill/away etc. These may be things your parents will ask about. If they do say no, then ask what their reasons are. There may be things you haven't thought about, or things you can all discuss together and maybe find a solution to.
BUT one thing to mention ... They are your parents so at the end of the day it is their house and their rules! So even if you think it is incredibly unfair, you do need to respect their decisions - which also goes a long way to them seeing you are grown up and responsible which, in time, could help them change their minds!
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