Advice??

Hamshak · 03-30-2016, 10:01 PM

So before today we had been planning on adopting a second hamster. A little black syrian female from a friend of a friend who said their child had wanted her so badly and then grew bored(how could you ever??) So they wanted to rehome her and my friend knew I had recently gotten Bulma. So the plan had been to pick up a bin for her tomorrow on my day off and get it ready and pick her up Friday.

However, Bulma passed away so suddenly and so unexpectedly that I find myself unsure of what to do. My poor little princess is barely gone and I'm going to get another hamster? I feel so guilty. Yet at the same time I know this new hamster will end up in some horrible home if I change my mind. I'm lost as to what to do now.

cypher · 03-30-2016, 10:44 PM

Don't feel guilty, you never will replace your little girl, it's so sad that you lost her so young & so unexpectedly, it's such a shock when that happens & I really feel for you.
You'll always have a place for her in your heart & I think you have a space in your heart for this little one that needs rehoming too, it wouldn't mean you love your Bulma any less.
Perhaps you'll find knowing you're helping a ham in need, giving it the home & love it deserves will help you cope with your feelings about Bulma.
Whatever you decide to do will be right for you though so don't feel bad either way.

shawniyatwain · 03-31-2016, 12:29 AM

Don't feel guilty but also don't rush yourself. When the time is right for another you will know it, whether that's a day, week, more than or longer after.
I think cypher is right it sounds like you could fit this litter on into your heart and it migration help you cope

The hardest bit and the bit I am currently experiencing with nutmeg, is they aren't your old hamster and that I would say is the most difficult thing to get your head around.
I'm sure you will decide the best thing for you x

**Cinnamon Bear** · 03-31-2016, 03:42 AM

I wouldn't let yourself feel guilty for wanting another hammie so fast. Especially when you have the opportunity to adopt one who is in need of a home. Caring for your new pet may take your mind off the hammie you just lost. Everyone is different in the amount of time they need to adjust, but if adopting right away is good for you there isn't anything wrong with that.

Thin Lizzy · 03-31-2016, 04:12 AM

So sorry to hear about Bulma.
Cypher's spot on, you'll never forget Bulma and have many wonderful memories.
This little ham needs you, I know you've plenty love to give.

Hamshak · 03-31-2016, 07:21 AM

Thank you guys, it helps coming from people who understand what it is to lose a ham, I knew I was attached to Bulma but just that moment of finding her gone hits hard. I know this little girl needs a home and love and I can give her a good life, it just might take us a little while to open up to each other. It doesn't help that her current owners seem impatient to be rid of her, I feel bad for the little thing.

BeautyandtheBeast · 03-31-2016, 07:43 AM

I'm sorry for your loss Hamshak. The way I see it is that Bulma would want you to look after this ham, especially if you're worried about her care if you decide not to don't take her home. She will never replace Bulma, and Bulma knows that. Don't rush into anything that you're not sure of but this little one might help to heal the hole

Hamshak · 03-31-2016, 01:30 PM

Well it seems the choice was taken away from me. I think my friend new how I was feeling about Bulma and wanted to help(at least I think that's why) so she went and picked the hamster up and about an hour ago brought her here. I had to scramble to get a bin ready as I had emptied everything from Bulma's because I couldn't bear to look at it after we had buried her. I'm still unsure but how could I have turned her away after actually seeing her, crammed into a tiny little habitrail starter kit, I knew she hadn't been treated very well by the look of the prison she was in. I guess we'll see how this goes.

CalebsMom · 03-31-2016, 02:40 PM

Very sorry for your loss of sweet Bulma.

ACarle · 03-31-2016, 09:07 PM

My hammy, Honey, passed away a little over a week ago. I was so torn up about it that my family all pushed me to get a new one. I now have a new baby, Sugar, and although it has been very hard, I think that she has prevented me from being lonely without Honey. I felt exactly the same way about getting a new hamster, and in fact I still feel a little guilty, but I know that I can never replace Honey. I also know that she wouldn't want me to be lonely without her. It is normal to feel guilty, but remember that getting a new hammy will never change the bond and memories you had with Bulma.