[mangoandmimi]

Aw it just takes time, that's all. And i agree, feeding her etc could be done in the evening, where you're not under stress.
have you tried the bath technique? because that worked wonders for us. even for the nippy ones.

for our gerbil, getting her out's the hardest part of cleaning out her tank! being possibly one of the most socially awkward gerbils around, she won't come near me at all and keeps herself to herself. so i get her out with a tube or a box with a lid (lie box on side, slide lid over it when she's in).